Golf Tutorials

Guy Teaching a Girl How to Golf

By Spencer Lanoue
July 24, 2025

Bringing someone you care about into the world of golf is one of the best ways to share time together, but that first lesson on the driving range can feel a little daunting. This guide will give you a clear, simple path to follow. We’ll break down the essentials in a way that skips the technical jargon and focuses on building a repeatable swing, making those first few outings about fun and connection, not frustration.

Setting the Tone: Make the First Range Trip Fun

Before we even pick up a club, let’s set the most important ground rule: the first few trips to the driving range are not about results. They are about discovery. Success isn’t measured by how far or straight the ball goes, but by celebrating the small victories - making clean contact, getting the ball airborne, or even just having a good laugh at a shot that dribbles ten feet.

As the teacher, your job is to be the Director of Fun and Encouragement. Frame everything as an experiment. If a swing goes wrong, the response isn’t, "You did that wrong," but rather, "Haha, okay, let's try turning the body a bit more on this next one." Keep the mood light and the pressure non-existent. The goal is to make her want to come back for a second time, and that's built on a foundation of enjoyment, not perfect form.

First Things First: How to Hold the Golf Club

The grip is your only connection to the club, so it’s the logical starting point. Think of it as the steering wheel for your golf shots. An uncomfortable or improper grip can make hitting the ball straight nearly impossible without adding weird compensations to your swing later. It will feel strange at first - that’s completely normal. The way you hold a golf club is unlike holding anything else.

The Lead Hand (Top Hand on the Club)

For a right-handed golfer, this is the left hand. Let’s make this simple. With the clubface aimed squarely at your target, bring your left hand to the side of the grip. The key is to let it hang naturally, a normal, relaxed hand has the palm facing slightly inward, so that’s how it should go on the club.

  • Hold it in the fingers: The grip should run diagonally across the fingers, from the base of the little finger to the middle of the index finger.
  • Close your hand: Wrap your fingers around first, then place the palm on top.
  • Two-Knuckle Check: When you look down at your hand, you should be able to see the knuckles of your index and middle fingers. If you see more, your grip is likely too "strong" (turned too far over the top). If you see fewer, it's too "weak."
  • The "V" Check: The "V" shape formed by your thumb and index finger should point roughly toward your right shoulder. This is a great little checkpoint to confirm a neutral position.

The Trail Hand (Bottom Hand on the Club)

Now for the right hand. It approaches the club in the same way, with the palm facing inward toward the target. You want the palm's "lifeline" to cover the thumb of your top hand. This helps the two hands work together as a single unit.

What about the fingers? You have three main options, and there is no "right" answer. It’s all about what feels most comfortable and secure:

  • Ten-Finger (or Baseball) Grip: All ten fingers are on the club. This is often the most natural for beginners and is perfectly fine.
  • Interlock Grip: The pinky of your right hand links with the index finger of your left hand. Many great players, like Tiger Woods and Jack Nicklaus, use this.
  • Overlap (Vardon) Grip: The pinky of the right hand rests on top of the space between the left index and middle fingers. This is the most common grip on tour.

Encourage your student to try all three and just go with what feels best. The most important thing is that the hands feel connected and they don't move around during the swing.

Looking the Part: A Balanced, Athletic Setup

Standing over a golf ball feels awkward. Everyone feels self-conscious the first time they stick their bottom out and hinge over. Reassure your partner that this strange-feeling stance is what every golfer, from a beginner to a pro, does. It’s not just for looks, it’s designed to put you in a balanced position to rotate and generate power.

Step-by-Step Setup

  1. Start with the Clubface: Before taking your stance, place the clubhead on the ground directly behind the ball. Aim the face at your target. This establishes your alignment from the very start.
  2. Bend from the Hips: Now, keeping your back relatively straight, hinge forward from your hips (not your waist). The feeling is that you’re pushing your bottom backward.
  3. Let Your Arms Hang: Bend forward enough so that your arms can hang down naturally and comfortably from your shoulders. There should be a hand’s-width or so of space between your hands and your thighs. This ensures you're not too close or too far from the ball.
  4. Set Your Stance: With your upper body set, take a stance that is about shoulder-width apart for a middle iron. This provides a stable base for your body to turn. Your weight should feel evenly balanced, 50/50 between both feet.
  5. Ball Position Made Simple: Don't overcomplicate this. For a beginner, a great rule of thumb is to place the ball in the very middle of your stance for shorter irons (like a 9-iron or a pitching wedge). As the clubs get longer (7-iron, 5-iron, woods), you can move the ball position slightly forward, closer to your lead foot.

Once in this position, take a deep breath and relax. Tension is the enemy of a good golf swing. Shake out your arms a little and focus on feeling athletic and ready, not stiff and robotic.

The Main Event: The Rotational Swing

Many new golfers think the swing is a violent, up-and-down chopping motion using only the arms. This is the biggest misconception in golf. The golf swing is a rotational movement. It’s a smooth, circular motion where the club moves around the body, powered by the turning of your hips and shoulders.

The Backswing: Winding Up the Engine

The backswing is not about lifting the club, it’s about turning your body away from the target to store up power. It is a one-piece movement.

From your setup position, feel like your shoulders, chest, and hips all start turning away from the target together. The arms and the club simply go along for the ride. As you turn, your lead shoulder (left for a rightie) should move back and toward the middle of your stance. As this turn happens, your wrists will naturally start to hinge upward a bit, setting the club. You don't need to force this action, just let it happen.

Keep turning until you feel a comfortable tension in your back. Don’t try to swing as far back as a pro on TV. Your stopping point is uniquely yours - it's wherever you can turn to while maintaining balance. The goal is to feel like a coiled spring, ready to unwind.

The Downswing & Impact: Unleashing the Power

This is where the magic happens, and it’s simpler than you think. You’ve just spent the backswing winding your body up. The downswing is just the process of unwinding it.

But there's one critical first move. From the top of your swing, the very first thing that should happen is a slight shift of your weight onto your front (left) foot. This tiny move is vital because it ensures you hit down on the ball, compressing it against the clubface for a solid strike. A common error is leaning back to try and "help" the ball into the air. Let the club do the work! The loft on the face is designed to get the ball airborne.

After that slight weight shift, simplyunwind your body. Turn your hips and torso back toward the target. Your arms will naturally drop down and swing the club through the ball. The feeling should be one of "swinging through the ball," not "hitting at the ball." The momentum and release of your body's rotation are what create clubhead speed, not forcing it with your arms.

Sticking the Landing: The Finish Position

What happens after you hit the ball is just as important as what happens before. A great finish position is a tell-tale sign of a good, balanced swing.

Don't stop your swing at the ball. Continue rotating your body all the way through until your chest and belt buckle are facing your target. As you do this, your back foot will naturally come up onto its toe.

At the very end of the swing, almost all of your weight (about 90%) should be on your front foot. The club should finish comfortably over your lead shoulder. The goal is to hold this finish, balanced and poised, for a few seconds. Even if the shot was a total dud, holding a balanced finish trains your body for what greatness feels like. It promotes good tempo and a full-body swing rather than a short, stabby motion.

Final Thoughts

Teaching someone golf, or learning from a partner, is about breaking down a complex motion into a few simple feelings. By focusing on a comfortable hold, a balanced setup, and a smooth, rotational body turn, you create an excellent foundation. This approach minimizes frustration and maximizes the chances of hitting those few pure shots that get every golfer hooked.

As you progress, you'll naturally have more questions on the course, like what club to hit from 130 yards or how to play a tricky lie from the rough. That’s why we believe expert advice should be instantly available. With a tool like Caddie AI, you get that on-demand expertise right in your pocket. You can ask for a club recommendation, get strategy for a tough hole, or even snap a quick photo of your ball's lie to get clear,simple advice on how to handle it. We want to remove the guesswork so you can step up to every shot with confidence and focus on the joy of the game.

Spencer has been playing golf since he was a kid and has spent a lifetime chasing improvement. With over a decade of experience building successful tech products, he combined his love for golf and startups to create Caddie AI - the world's best AI golf app. Giving everyone an expert level coach in your pocket, available 24/7. His mission is simple: make world-class golf advice accessible to everyone, anytime.

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